Christmas With Us 2014 – Nominee #3
This nominee is the most kind-hearted person I have ever known. She does a lot for others from just cheering them up with a conversation to giving money to people who need it more than she does, to organizing benefits. I always tell her I wish I was more like her. She is also a wonderful mom. Her girls are her world and they do everything together! She and her husband have two little girls - 7 and 4-years-old.
She wanted one more baby before she felt her family was "complete". They got pregnant last year but had a miscarriage. This was very hard for both of them, and they were a little nervous to try again. They found out 5 months ago that they were pregnant! Everything was going fine until the 20 week ultrasound in Bismarck. This showed the baby's head was not forming the way it should be and also something was wrong with the spine. Instead of scheduling a second ultrasound, the doctors in Bismarck sent her to a specialist in Fargo 3 days later. After stressful days and sleepless nights, tests showed that the baby had the most severe case of Spine Bifida. The doctors recommended termination, because they said the baby will be paralyzed, (maybe completely) and the brain will not be right. One test showed the part of the brain that does our everyday involuntary movements (such as breathing) was being squashed. Her and her husband decided termination was not an option as God has given them this baby for a reason and they would do everything they could for this innocent, helpless baby.
They decided to go to Denver for surgery. This way the baby has a greater chance of being "normal", even though it could've been dangerous to the mother as well. They knew this would be a long, hard journey but hopefully be worth it in the end. The surgery on the baby's spine went well, but the doctors did say it was the biggest repair they've had to do, which is scary. She hasn't seen her girls since October and she cannot come home because she had been sick and got really dehydrated. The water in the baby's sac was low so the doctors don't want them to take any chances.
She will be going to the hospital in Fargo until February, after the baby arrives. (Baby's due date is February 19) She is on strict bed rest until then. I will take her girls to visit when I can, but it's not the same for them. They want their mom! She talks to them on the phone every night but they are very homesick. They know that the baby is sick and mom has to stay in the hospital. They're excited for when their baby brother arrives and mom can be home with them and dad!
Her husband has been flying back and forth from Denver. He works a few days, does chores and spends time with his girls, and then he goes back to be with her. He's definitely been doing a good job as "Mr. Mom"! Our families are wonderful as well. My mom is in Denver helping her right now. We take turns taking care of the girls, buying groceries, cooking, helping with homework, etc. People have been very generous giving money here and there for plane tickets and different expenses.
She doesn't like to take money from people but she can definitely use the help. I want my sister to have the best Christmas ever, but I'm not sure what else I can do to make that happen! She is very grateful for everything she has. She is not selfish and always looks at the positive side of everything!