How To Attract Absolutely Anyone
I love to come up with what I call "Intelligence For Your Life" and I have something so cool to share, that will definitely make your life better! You know how some people just light up a room? How do they do that? Is it magic? Believe it or not it’s NOT about how they look….it’s how they make others feel when they are around them. Here are 5 things to try to let your light shine!
1. Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb…that’s where the fruit is
Take action in life; even if you think you may fail, go for what you want anyway. The only way you can lose is if you do not try. Remember this quote: “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” Answer that question and go for it!! People who go after their dreams and goals are oh-so-attractive and inspirational to everyone they meet!
2. Treat others how you want to be treated
The Golden Rule is king! Kindness and patience are two of the most attractive features in anyone. When you are frustrated by other drivers in traffic, slow shoppers in the grocery aisle, be patient, don’t take their offenses personally (did that person cut ME off to “get me” or would he have cut anyone off that is driving in this same spot?) Think to yourself, “Will this matter in two weeks?” and move on. Hold the door for others, say please/thank you, and take that wayward cart back to the cart return on your way back to the store. Something that seems so small and insignificant may mean the world to another person.
3. Be a bright spot.
What makes a person draw others in like a moth to a flame? Two important things are happiness and warmth. At the end of the day, who do you remember from a long wait in line? A frustrated, frazzled person who uttered rude comments under his breath? Or, the one who made light of the situation and shared a laugh? It is attractive when you take a moment to be fully present and spread a smile or some warmth.
Think of people as wires carrying electricity, and when we take a moment to share our light, we glow with a bit of an extra charge, which we pass on to others, who in turn do the same, passing bursts of positive light around the grid of society.
4. Accept Others
A society where everyone is the same would be soooo boring! Acknowledge everyone’s unique gifts and talents; realize that we all have different backgrounds and look at things a bit differently. Celebrate differences, have compassion for others’ struggles, see all people as connected in the same world.
5. Be at ease with who you are
When you find comfort with your flaws, secrets, quirks, weirdness, your story — all of it — and believe you are loveable and valuable, regardless of the details, it draws people in. It is attractive when you live your life exactly as YOU are, without fear of judgment of what is normal and acceptable. The most attractive and inspiring people are the ones who are not afraid to color boldly and brightly outside the lines.